It only takes 9 days to break bad habits (If you do nothing)

If you want to break a bad habit, DO NOTHING.

You've been told to break bad habits. You need to replace them with good ones.

But you’re not building yourself, you’re distracting yourself.

It’s true, you will build new good habits, but you won’t break the bad ones. Period. One day, you’ll get back to the bad once and wonder why you didn’t change. You’ll get angry, and confused, and probably quit the good habit that you’ve been building.

Here’s the truth no one told you.

The Ego Defence Mechanism:

In its essence, the ego is the self, it is your identity, the story you tell yourself every single day, and the beliefs you’ve been thinking and reflecting them on your behaviour with the world.

To summarize, it is the person you’re now and the habit associated with it.

Let's dive deeper.

The ego's main job is to survive.

It needs to do everything to never let you find the truth (changing yourself), which is the reason why change feels hard at the beginning.

But most people never realize that the ego's biggest fear is not changing yourself, it is silence.

Because silence kills the ego (the identity around your bad habits), because most of your bad habits are born in silence (boredom), and as long as the ego’s job is to survive, it won’t let you sit with silence at all.

You don’t have a bad habits problem. You have a fear of silence.

You're anxious all day because you fear silence. After all, silence is painful.

You're running away from it. You're making yourself busy all day. You're distracting yourself with social media. That's why most people can't break bad habits.

The Break Free Mechanism:

The only way to break a bad habit is to sit in silence and do nothing.

The best way to sit in silence and do nothing is MEDITATION.

People underestimate how 10 minutes of meditation each day (You must progress your way up to 60 minutes, don’t aim for less, you’re better than that) can rewire their minds.

Meditation is not just a tool to observe your thoughts. Meditation is a healing tool for bad habits.

When you sit and meditation, you're basically doing the exact opposite you did to acquire a new bad habit. You're not distracting yourself, you're healing yourself. You're not moving from task to distraction to a distraction; you're staying still with boredom.

But the big benefit doesn't stop here, you're also reclaiming your attention from being outside your body, to calling it back. Period. You'll recover all your focus that has been lost on reels, shorts, and notifications.

You can cure bad habits by simply staying and doing nothing.

I've tried most of the meditation techniques, and after DAYS of trials. I found the best ONE.

The Void Meditation:

Ironically, this meditation is called “strong termination sitting”, but I like to call it “the void” because basically, you’re getting yourself out of time. You’re no longer thinking about the past. You’re no longer thinking about the future. You’re nothing. Nothing is the void.

So basically, the void meditation is to make the commitment to sit and not move.

You don’t move at all.

You don’t move to reposition yourself.

You don’t move to scratch an itch on your face.

You don’t move to adjust your back and your legs

You don’t move at all.

It may look easy, but trust me. At the start, you can’t do 1 hour, but you can achieve it.

You simply set a timer for 30 minutes to 1 hour, and you sit and do not move.

The best part is you’ll realize how rough your mind is, and you’ll notice very quickly that there’s something wrong with you.

So now we understand how our ego is shaping bad habits for our lives, your job is to notice when the bad habit triggers you the most around your day, and do the void meditation at that time.

That’s it.

You don’t need to replace them with good habits.

You don’t need to hate who you are to become better.

You don’t need to force yourself to replace every bad habit.

You need to sit and face your ego.

I hope this letter was helpful.

– Noah